An Important Process

 The classes we had this week just made me remember about dating, engaging and my own wedding five years ago. First, it was super cool to learn about how everything is a big process; that sometimes if you don`t pay attention, you can’t see what is happening around you. I also think the same pattern happens when you are trying to see a miracle in your own life, I mean, if you are not with the Holy Ghost and paying attention, we will not be able to identify many miracles in your life.

So, when talking about engaging, it is really important to follow some steps in order to have a happy marriage. The most important I think, it’s to know the person the best you can. Few months ago, I met a couple here in BYUI, they are also from Latin America, so we have a lot of things in common. They are married for only one year now, and they are having too many problems because they are now figuring out, that they didn’t know each other as they should. It is very sad when you see this happening right in front of you. I try to help the best as I can but let us look on how this situation can start.

I would like to start saying that dating is a huge part of this whole process. I need to go out with someone and get to know each other better, this is the time when you are going to see the character and personality of this person, now is when you are going to see if this guy is reactive or proactive, and this is really important. You want to marry, so this is the time when you are going to ask some question to this guy and see how re reacts during stressful moments. This is the time when you will stop and think if this is what you want for your life. If you fail at this part of the process, you will have a hard time in the future for sure. Do not go outside like crazy just trying to find the perfect person but take time to listen to the Holy Ghost. I know, and I can understand that sometimes you are in love, and you feel this is the right person, but you can never forget that you still need to know this person better. I also understand that you are only going to know this person perfectly when you both are living together, but you need to see how his or her character is first. When you are done with this, it probably took you from six to twelve months, and at is this time, the man can propose to her fiancé. So, at this point they should both know each other and love each other, they probably made some plans together, and they are part of the plan of each other. When the guy it is going to kneel and ask the girls if she will marry him, this should be something between the couple, and not a crowd of people. This could be terrible if the girl says no, and the girl could also feel forced to say yes. I am so glad that everything went good with me. I found the perfect girl, this amazing woman, and we talked a lot in order to know each other better. I knew she was the best thing that happened with me, and now, almost 7 years later, I still have this same opinion about her. She is just fantastic. I hope other couples can learn from this process and find the perfect person for his or her life.

 

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