2 Months as Foreign guy

This week was amazing. I learned a lot about different people and culture around the world, and how this can affect many families.

During classroom we saw a representation of a Mexican family that was moving to United States without any documents. We would able to see how some little or giant changes can affect an entire family at once.

That made me remember about my own move to Unites States few months ago.  At the beginning before my marriage I was planning to come by myself, living in a approved housing and being able to travel back to my country every off track to see my parents again. I think that would not affect my family a lot. But plans changed because I got married and then more people, specially my wife would face a huge challenge in our lives. I remember I started to ponder and to think deeply if that was the right thing to do. I knew It was something I wanted my whole life, but I started to think `` is this what my wife wants?`` I have no doubt that this is a really common thing to ask yourself when you are an international student moving from one country to another. I heard that we have here in Brigham Young University Idaho more then One thousand and six hundred International students. What a change for so many people. Specially for married couples.

So I started to pray, and see if this was the right things for us to do. The answer came many days after and it was yes. We started our plans and my wife told my Father in Law about our decision, and the feedback was terrible. He said that this was not for us, and that we should stay in our own country because it would be better for us and for the whole family. It was just like we saw in classroom. We got really upset because on the other hand, my parents were supporting us a lot and even given some nice tips for us about living in another country. We decided to talk again with my father in law, and we tried to explain him the good things we could reach achieving an international degree in this University. At this point he was better with us, and told us that we should do what we want. I remember it was a hard time for my wife, because some how she was between her father and me. She was brave enough to say that she would follow me wherever I go, and then we really started to plan our travel. At this point all of our family members was knowing about our moving, they started to support us even more and when we finally was ready to get on the plane and travel, something really bad happened. It was the 2021 covid pandemic. This little virus that came from Chine traveled the whole Country to be against the plans me and mt wife made for so many months. He had to stop all again an for a moment or two, we though about given up of everything and just stay in Sao Paulo or maybe in Goiania which is my wife`s hometown. Finally things get better in my Country and we would able to apply for our visas and travel safe to United States. Its been a blessing for us, even with this big change of culture in our life. Our family is all supporting us and we fell really blessed at this time. I hope we can inspire others to achieve their goals as well.

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