Family Management

 The classes we had this week just made me remember about dating, engaging and my own wedding five years ago. First, it was super cool to learn about how everything is a big process; that sometimes if you don`t pay attention, you can’t see what is happening around you. I also think the same pattern happens when you are trying to see a miracle in your own life, I mean, if you are not with the Holy Ghost and paying attention, we will not be able to identify many miracles in your life. So, when talking about engaging, it is really important to follow some steps in order to have a happy marriage. The most important I think, it’s to know the person the best you can. Few months ago, I met a couple here in BYUI, they are also from Latin America, so we have a lot of things in common. They are married for only one year now, and they are having too many problems because they are now figuring out, that they didn’t know each other as they should. It is very sad when you see this happening right

  I was amazing to see this week, how we can learn and go deep with just a little subject. I mean, this week we were talking about dates, and trying to see all the theories behind that, and it was kind of funny to see all the comments around this. First, I just figured out that in American culture, date in something very different, especially in Rexburg or Utah. I would try to explain the differences I saw between this region in America and my home country, Brazil. First of all, I can see that sometimes, date can be something really seriously, but sometimes don’t. It depends in how well interested you are in a person. For example, if you have a high school crush and ask her out for a date, that should be a huge event, and you would probably want to date her as many as you can, and try to impress her so she can become your girlfriend one day. On the other hand, if you are in college and is just trying to make new friends, you can ask someone in a date, but that doesn’t mean you want t

  Almost halfway this semester, and this week I just learned a lot from Brother Williams. Actually, the subject was a little hard to discuss because often someone gets offended. We were talking about the LGBT community and looking at some theories which is the attempt to explain a phenomena. So, the discussing during class was to observe some theories that explain how people think a homosexual thought starts and what role has the family during that process. This is a good thing to know and learn because in our society everybody has an opinion about every topic right now, and often, lack of evidence or support in our opinion can be something dangerous, even as bad as fake news. This is something we are facing a lot in my country (Brazil) right now, even politics are saying fake news in order to obtain votes and be elected, so now there is a chaos over there. When you learn something in college, you see that you need proof of evidence about what you are talking. We saw earlier this s

This week was amazing. I learned a lot about different people and culture around the world, and how this can affect many families. During classroom we saw a representation of a Mexican family that was moving to United States without any documents. We would able to see how some little or giant changes can affect an entire family at once. That made me remember about my own move to Unites States few months ago.   At the beginning before my marriage I was planning to come by myself, living in a approved housing and being able to travel back to my country every off track to see my parents again. I think that would not affect my family a lot. But plans changed because I got married and then more people, specially my wife would face a huge challenge in our lives. I remember I started to ponder and to think deeply if that was the right thing to do. I knew It was something I wanted my whole life, but I started to think `` is this what my wife wants?`` I have no doubt that this is a really c

  Like I said in my first post when I started to write, this blog will be created to help people or couples from outside United States to first feel welcome and then to feel comfortable with this new culture when visiting or coming to study in this country. Sometimes when talking about marriage, a huge change of culture can ruin the marital harmony between a couple, and that’s the reason I want to talk to this audience. Let me start first talking about my experience. I arrived in United states almost 50 days ago. It was something I was expecting for a long time, even before the pandemic starts. Me and my wife spent a lot of time in the temple asking the Lord if that was his willing for us, and when we got a confirmation, we started our plans. After many researches, we decided that BYUI was the right place for us. It would be fun to change from the giant city of Sao Paulo to this small town called Rexburg in the middle of some potatoes farms. During that process of moving from one